Who Wears Boutonnieres & Corsages at a Wedding?

Deciding who should wear a floral arrangement at your wedding can range from straightforward to complex, often influenced by family dynamics and relationships. It’s important to bear in mind that weddings serve as occasions that unite people. They are a special day meant for celebrating love and unity, rather than dwelling on grievances or emphasizing family discord. Including family members and in-laws in the floral tradition, regardless of personal differences, is a way to foster a sense of inclusivity and celebration. Let’s look closer at who should wear a floral at your wedding.

A Brief Look At Wedding Floral Attire

For centuries, boutonnieres and corsages have been a staple of wedding attire, evolving from simple botanical accessories to intricate floral arrangements. Their historical significance is steeped in tradition and symbolism, with various theories explaining their popularity in weddings. From being considered as symbols of good luck and protection against evil spirits, to representing personal style and family status, these mini floral arrangements have stood the test of time. The historical significance of boutonnieres and corsages offers a fascinating glimpse into how these customs have shaped modern wedding practices.

Quick guide: who wears what

Who Wears a Floral at the Wedding?

Groom

The groom's boutonniere serves to set him apart from the rest of the wedding party. It possesses the potential to be truly exceptional, whether through a distinct color, a unique flower choice, or an exquisite design - an elevated version of the boutonnieres worn by the groomsmen.

A popular modern twist is the pocket square floral

, introducing a modern touch to this timeless and traditional accessory. This addition further enhances the overall aesthetic and adds an extra layer of sophistication to the groom's attire, making it an unforgettable detail of the wedding celebration.

Groomsmen

Groomsmen, who have been by the groom's side throughout the planning process, don boutonnieres as a symbol of their significant role and cherished friendship. Their boutonnieres are usually a subtler version of the groom's, ensuring the groom remains the focal point.

Ushers

Ushers, tasked with the important role of seating guests, are honored with boutonnieres. This thanks them for their help and makes it easy for guests to spot them as part of the wedding party.

Fathers

Fathers, particularly if involved in the aisle procession, should wear boutonnieres. This is not only a mark of respect but also enhances the aesthetic appeal of photographs. This applies to any significant male figure involved in the ceremony, such as uncles or grandfathers.

Mothers

Mothers typically wear corsages, with wrist corsages being the preferred choice due to the evolving styles of dresses, which often feature lighter fabrics and diverse necklines. Including stepmothers with a simpler corsage is a thoughtful gesture that recognizes their presence without overshadowing the mother's corsage.

Readers

Readers, as an integral part of the wedding program, are recognized with either a boutonniere or corsage. This not only makes them feel included but also serves as a token of gratitude for their contribution to the ceremony.

Grandparents

For grandparents, receiving a boutonniere or corsage is often a touching gesture that connects them to the traditions of their time. For many in the older generation, these floral accessories carry a deeper sentimental value.

Officiant

The appropriateness of a floral for the officiant depends on their attire. If they are a member of the clergy in ceremonial robes, a floral may not be suitable. However, if the officiant is a family member or friend, a floral serves as a beautiful token of appreciation.

Boutonniere and Corsage FAQ

Which side does a boutonniere go on? The left lapel, over the heart, pinned through the buttonhole or just below it.

Which wrist does a corsage go on? Usually the left wrist, so it stays out of the way when shaking hands.

How many boutonnieres and corsages do we need? Count your groom, groomsmen, ushers, both sets of parents and stepparents, grandparents, readers and officiant. Most weddings need 10–20 pieces in total.

Who pays for boutonnieres and corsages? Traditionally the groom’s family, but most couples now include them in the overall floral budget.

Should boutonnieres match the bridal bouquet? They should echo it in one flower or color. The groom’s boutonniere is usually a little more special than the groomsmen’s.

Conclusion

Incorporating florals into your wedding attire is a beautiful way to honor those who play a significant role in your special day. It's a tradition that not only adds to the aesthetic of the ceremony but also symbolizes love, respect, and unity. By thoughtfully selecting who wears these florals, you create a sense of inclusion and celebration, making your wedding a memorable event for everyone involved.

At J. Morris Flowers, we design boutonnieres and corsages to match your bouquet and your wedding palette, for every season. Book a wedding consultation and we’ll help you plan personal flowers for everyone in your wedding party.